Purpose – what is it really about?

October 30, 2008

When you talk about purpose in life, what imagery does your mind conjure up?

Do you  believe it is about supporting as many causes as you can?  Or perhaps you think it is it trying to be that valuable member of the family that everyone looks to when things go wrong?  Maybe for you it is trying to go as far up the career ladder as possible or building up a business venture, such that the world has never seen! 

These and many more aspects of our busy lives are different tools or ‘vehicles’ of our purpose, but not real purpose itself.  This blog is devoted to sharing a personal journey, inviting others to share and hopefully help people understand the real meaning of purpose.

As a coach who helps her clients make the best of their work life, the challenge I set for my clients is to discover why they exist for such a time as this.  I help them understand that focusing on a career or business venture before understanding why you exist for such a time as this is like putting the cart before the horse.  Discovering true purpose is indeed very liberating.  When you begin to unravel the truths about purpose, you know where to invest your time, energy and abilities.  You appreciate the truth that there is only ever going to be one you now and forever.  You understand why you need to let go of past hurts, regrets and failures – there is no time to wallow in self pity.  

The very first thing to come to terms with, is that purpose comes from God. 

Only the creator knows the reason for the creation.  Before you start going into a long tirade of how you are not interested in religion and how most Christians are hypocrites, just give me a sec.  Without a sound relationship with this heavenly being, you will never (and I mean never) ever live a fulfilled life.  There are a number of people who will want to argue vehemently against this because they do not believe there is a God.  “What a load of rubbish”, they’ll say.  “Oh no, not the ‘born agains’ again” they’ll exclaim.  Then they’ll launch into a long vehement debate about how fulfilled their lives are  because they do good, are a part of various causes and give generously to a whole load of charities, and all without the help of the ‘Almighty’ (thank you very much). To them I say, “Yes,  you are fulfilling purpose, but it most definitely is not your purpose”.  Whatever it is you are experiencing in terms of success right now, it will be no where as near as what God has in store for you. 

The concept of God is definitely something every single person upon the face of the earth should look into.  You owe yourself  that much.  You cannot afford to take a gamble on where you are going to spend eternity.  Do not depend on hearsay, perceptions, what your folks, family or friends say or anything else.  You must give this 100%, and always inwardly believe that God is leading you towards the truth.  The key to not falling into the trap of false doctrine or religion is to always remember you have DIRECT ACCESS to him.  He is always listening and always watching over you.  Make sure you pursue this with the entirety of your heart and soul because when you breath your last breath he will be the first person you will see, trust me you don’t want to be stuck with the other dude for eternity.

Let’s say for a moment that you accept that there indeed is a God, but you are still sceptical –  fine, everything is a process.  As long as you keep an open mind and you are willing to explore, then you are making progress.   So what’s next, you say?  Connecting with him. 

Now this is where it gets a bit tricky, because there is a lot of confusion (mainly orchestrated by the devil to ensure that you end up in hell with him) out there.  Personally, I advocate a life of being wtih Christ.

You see it’s like this (this is a very abridged version, so you’re going to have to go and do some digging around yourself).  Adam and Eve lost their direct relationship with God when the devil came along in the form of a snake to feed them a whole bunch of lies.  As a result of listening to him, they in effect handed over the authority and dominion that God had originally intended for them.  Also as a result of disobeying God, the sinful state of mankind began.  But God wasn’t about to give up on mankind just yet.  So he set into motion his plan of reconcilliation ie reconciling mankind and himself.  God needed a sacrifice worthy enough to wipe away mankind sins.  The ones being comitted and the ones to come.  This is where Jesus Christ comes in.  Jesus is the son of God, one of God’s companions from the very beginning of time (the other companion at is the Holy Spirit).  Jesus volunteered to leave his glorious and unblemished state to become a man.  To experience everything that we humans do.  He knew that only his blood could be real atonement (or payment) for the sins of mankind. 

Words cannot really describe the pain he endured from the time of his arrest to when he was finally crucified.  However if you want to get an idea, watch Mel Gibson’s Passion of Christ.  When he took his last breath, he said “It is finished”, meaning that once again mankind could have a direct relationship with God. 

So in conclusion to discover real purpose, you have to begin a relationship with God.  To begin a relationship with God, you have find out more about what Jesus Christ did for you.  No one can have a relationship with God without accepting Jesus as his or her Lord and Saviour.  As soon as you do this, then you begin a DIRECT RELATIONSHIP with God.  Discovering the truth about how much God loves you and how he longs for a relationship with you is one of the most exciting experiences you will encounter in your life time.  I urge you to begin today.  Each one of us have numbered days, the sooner you start the sooner you begin your journey.

Best wishes always,

Do you know who created you?

November 9, 2008

In my last blog, I began sharing about what true purpose is all about.  I concluded by saying that, to really have a purposeful life you need to develop a relationship with your creator (I hope you are still keeping an open mind if you are not that way inclined…..yet!). 

This week I would like to cite common reasons for people not developing a relationship with God.

Perception:-  A lot is said about God, positive and negative, however not all of it is true.  So therefore it is of the utmost importance that you ensure that you get to know God for yourself.  You must really ask yourself the question; Is the information I have about God my personal revelation/insight/experience or is it second hand information?  People cite a number of reasons; there is the ever popular “Well if there is a God, why do all these bad things happen?”  Or “I don’t really buy into all this religious/hokus pokus stuff”  And don’t forget the very enlightening “I can’t stand those Christians, they are so hypocritical!”  All this says to me is that you just haven’t been bothered to spend time getting to know this ‘being’ for yourself enabling you to come up with your own experience.  After all true existence is all about being able to express your own personal experience of living.

Being hurt in the past:- There are times where the very people who are entrusted to look after us spiritually or otherwise turn out to be the very people we should stay well away from!  There have been very unfortunate incidents where people have been hurt profoundly.  As a result they get angry with God and blame Him for their bad experiences.  No matter how painful these experiences are, this must not keep you from developing a relationship with God.  Actually these are the times where you need to pull even closer to Him.  And in fact have a very critical look at the relationship you had before. 

Does not fit into your lifestyle:- All the vices fall into this category.  Also anything in the excessive is probably in this category as well.  The Bible says that while we were still sinners, when we weren’t even thinking of a relationship with Him, God loved us. 

Just a few of the most common reasons.  Whatever you feel, you have to be 100% honest and ask if you are just simply hanging on to these ‘reasons’ because (a) you really haven’t bothered to diligently seek out the truth for yourself; (b) you really do not like the idea of submitting to anyone, much less a being you cannot even see; (c) quite frankly, you just want to have fun and don’t want to do a whole load of ‘religious’ things that would cramp your style! 

The truth of the matter is, unless you develop a true relationship with God, you will never discover true purpose.   Rick Warren makes mention of an atheist, Betrand Russell who apparently made the comment “Unless you assume a God, the question of life’s purpose is meaningless”.  Even an atheist accepts that there is a God.

So let me leave you with these questions

What is REALLY stopping you from acknowledging and submitting yourself to your creator? 

Is it fear? (What if He is not real?  All this spiritual stuff freaks me out! I don’ t think He is going to like me…).  Or is it pride? (I don’t need Him, I have done quite well for myself without Him!).  Or is it anger? (I have through hell and back and where has He been!!!!  What kind of God sits back and watches will all these atrocities and unjust things go on?!!!).  Or is it confusion? (My folks/friends have always said religious people are hypocrites, I don’t know what to think!).  Or is it hurt? (I used to love being part of a church, but i was hurt so badly, I’ll never trust God again…)

Whatever it is that you feel, I urge you to put it aside and do this:

Talk to Him.  Do this first, it is very important.  Be frank, be open.  Say exactly how you feel.  Believe that He hears.  Be expectant that He will answer the questions you have asked.  Dig around for answers yourself.  There is an awesome amount of resource out there – books, audio, video – the lot!!.  Keep a journal of questions and occurrences after your 1:1s.  You do not have to have an intermediary, or go through a special ritual before you can talk to him.  You are the ‘prodigal’ son that he has been waiting for.  He literally watches the horizon to see when you are going to make your way back to Him.

Now this is the very tip of the iceberg and every situation is different.  This is what I did when I first came to know God.  I found a quiet spot and had a 1:1 with Him.  I know Him for myself.  And because of this, I hear when he tells me off, when he gives me a thumbs up, when he warns me of danger, when he is leading me to reach out to someone and so on.  And as a result of this, whenever something happens or someone has something to say – whether good or bad, I have a filter within me that will either accept or reject what is on offer. 

I’ll leave you with this, what you should be aiming for is a relationship with God and not getting caught up in religion.  Also, bear in mind that you will never ever find your true purpose unless you have a relationship with God and there is also the huge possibility that you face an eternity of torment in hell, this at least should prompt you to give this 100%.